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Reach Your Potential

08 Wednesday Apr 2015

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Sometimes ambitions we used to hold very dear turn into distant dreams. The longer time passes by, the less likely we are to ever achieve these goals- especially if motivation is lacking. Humans have an inherent ability to settle – you find a good paying job that is stable but not rewarding and you are likely to stay. You meet a man who makes you feel reasonably secure but lacks a physical connection- you will still most likely stay. We’ve been taught that quitting things is bad, if you decide to abandon something it means you have failed. But removing yourself from something that is making you unhappy isn’t failing – it is actually very progressive – it means you have recognized that you want something different and have the determination to do something about it. Reflection is the first step to reaching your potential – reflecting on what you have, what you want and lastly how you’re going to get it. You want a change in your life? You’re going to have to make it happen. You’ve probably heard that ‘good things come to those who wait’, I say that is a load of old rubbish – if you want something go after it right now – nothing is going to fall into your lap if you don’t seek opportunities around you.

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In order to have a fulfilling and happy life you need to listen to yourself and figure out what will help propel you in you endeavors. There are certain steps you can take to organize your mind and learn what it is that can potentially change your life for the better.

Reflect

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As I’ve previously mentioned- reflection is the key. Take an afternoon to yourself where you shut yourself off from the world and think! Maybe turn on some relaxing music, make a nice hot cup of coffee and get a notepad – start writing everything down! A brainstorm is always a good place to start – write down everything that comes to mind – things that you’ve done, thing’s that you wish you had done! Before you know it you will have a vague idea of where to start. Think about everything you have done in your life, everything you’re doing now, and everything you would like to do.

Be Pro-Active

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Now that you have a better understanding of what you want – begin to contemplate on how you’re going to get it. So, for example, you want to teach children to swim at the local leisure center? Go look up the course you need to qualify and APPLY! Literally, the first step to reaching your full potential is to START DOING WHAT YOU WANT. Don’t just talk about it, but actually go for it.

Accept Change

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A hurdle you will have to get over is change. When you commit to change you need to embrace it. You need to be sure of yourself and your abilities in order to feel comfortable doing new. Remember that nervousness can easily transpire into excitement – feed that energy into your ventures. A change in life will inspire a change in you – and most importantly – for the better. People love to be surrounded by others who are pro-active and have new things to talk about – well done! That person is now you, enjoy it!

Love BWC xoxo

16 Quotes to Live by!

10 Tuesday Mar 2015

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It’s hard to believe how fast this year is going – we’re in March already for heavens sake! I don’t know about you, but for all intent and purposes I feel like my New Years resolutions are long forgotten and destitute. I’ve got that panicked ‘where is the year gone!’ feeling, not only that but ‘where is this year going!’ 

I’ve been feeling a little uninspiring and that isn’t ever a great place to be. I’ve set myself the task to bring about some more positive thoughts to replace any uncertainty of my feelings. Positive thinking is contagious and when you’re around someone happy it immediately makes you smile 🙂 I’ve set up a list of motivational quotes to get myself and you inspired! Spring has nearly sprung so let’s breathe new life into 2015 and mentally prepare for a happier healthier you!

1. “The great thing in this world is not so much where you stand, as in what direction you are moving.”– Oliver Wendell Holmes

2. “The difference between a successful person and others is not lack of strength not a lack of knowledge but rather a lack of will.”– Vince Lombardi

3. “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”– Stephen Covey

4. “Talent is given, greatness is earned” -Lebron James

5. “Good things come to people who wait, but better things come to those who go out and get them.” – Anonymous

6. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

7. “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” – Anonymous

8. “The starting pointing of all achievement is desire” – Napolean Hill

9. “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

10. “Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being.” –Kevin Kruse

11. “You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” – Christopher Columbus

12. “If the wind will not serve, take to the oars.” – Latin Proverb

13. “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein

14. “The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it.” –Chinese Proverb

15.  “I have learnt over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.” – Rosa Parks

16. “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

DANCE IN THE RAIN

You spend 26 years of your life ASLEEP!

03 Tuesday Feb 2015

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Leading on from a recent blog about how long the average person spends on their phone (FYI it’s 3.9 YEARS). I became curious about how much time we spend doing other things- and I am still shocked by the results.

We spend…

26 Years Sleeping

I will simply drink MORE COFFEE!


10.3 Years Working

I will quit my job and live off the land.


11 Years Infront of the Television

Cancelling sky broadband as we speak! No more pause and record.


3 Months Stuck in Traffic

Who needs to buy a car?


1 Year Choosing What to Wear- If You are a Woman

I will save time if I simply wear no more clothes.


5 Years on the Internet

No more web surfing here.


6 Months Queuing

I guess I’m just going to have to forget my manners and learn to push in 😉

Wow. Just Wow.

Love BWC xoxo

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That’s Right Betty White

31 Saturday Jan 2015

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Guide To Emotional Freedom

29 Thursday Jan 2015

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It is both a blessing and a curse that as women we have a deeper emotional connection with ourselves and those around us. Females are more consciously aware of their feelings and not just that- better at expressing them. In a social context our thoughts and interactions are sometimes fueled by emotion, or a bunch of emotions at one time. We are able to summon up feelings of anger almost simultaneously with feelings of forgiveness- and this ability to feel more than one thing at once and distinguish between each emotion is a mature intelligence.

But sometimes we may become entrapped by our own thoughts, with a tunnel vision that feels endless and inescapable. In times like this it is key to acknowledge that your mind is a tool- and it will behave in whichever way we will it to. Whenever you loose the will to do things remember it is of your choosing and that also means you can choose to think and act a different way. We can be our own worst enemy at times and the self-realization of this is the first step to releasing your fears and demons and bringing you one step closer to fulfilling your dreams. Here’s a quick step guide to Emotional Freedom.

1. Reverse Pessimism.

A negative attitude is always going to hold you back. Change ‘I can’t do this’ into ‘I will do this’ and you will begin to see that you CAN do it.

2. Love You.

Forget the three words that bring a smile on your face – I love you is out and LOVE YOU is in. You must, must, must Love YOU! I cannot stress the emotional impact and value loving yourself will have on you as a person. Focus on reasons why you are amazing, never let yourself dwell on reasons you are not.

3. Forget what others think.

Remember that what you think is the most important thing. Do not allow others to pass judgement onto you- you do NOT need anybodies approval. Yes it’s nice when somebody agrees with you but it is not a necessity- if you follow your heart you will begin to notice that those who may have disagreed with you in the first place have quickly done a 180° and are now right behind you.

4. Say NO to Compulsive Thinking.

A very smart lady once told me that you are not responsible for your first thought, only your second. You may have an irritable thought that just keeps coming back into your head that is not positive- maybe you keep dwelling on a recent fight- this is BAD projection- instead- acknowledge the thought, accept you may be feeling like this, then LET IT GO! Do not obsess- simply acknowledge, accept, and move on.

5. Let go of hatred.

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Forget anything you’ve ever learnt about anger, revenge, grudges. Just forget them in their entirety. It is not in your best interest to draw out a battle- why use your emotional resource on something that has no benefit to you whatsoever? Hating someone is exhausting, if there is no way to resolve a fight then just allow these negative thoughts to leave you and get on with the rest of your life. Believe it or not, being the bigger person makes you appear STRONGER not weaker.

6. Live for today.

I’m going to be a little bit cheesy here, but I believe it is completely appropriate 🙂

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift; that’s why they call it the present.

Love BWC xoxo

Dating Younger Men

22 Thursday Jan 2015

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I’m quite irked about the new obsession with Jennifer Lopez, or in fact any woman, dating men younger than them. Over the past ten years, there has been a tremendous shift in societal perception in dating. What was once thought of as unusual (à la Demi/Ashton) has now become common place (Hallelujah!) as more and more women are going for younger men – Julianne Moore, Mariah Carey, Tina Turner, Robin Wright, Joan Collins, Geena Davis, Cher, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, Halle Berry, Cameron Diaz and Jennifer Aniston – so it shouldn’t be such a shocker in 2015 when women in the spotlight go for a younger, better model. If you had the chance, would you?

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Men date younger women. All. The. Fricking. Time. So why is it such an issue in reverse? There are so many benefits to dating a younger man, like:

  1. It’s all about me, me, me – he’ll admire your success and achievements. Being awed and adored is fab-u-lous!
  2. They make the effort – younger men love to impress. They’ll step it up for you and become the best version of themselves, unlike a lot of older men who don’t bother.
  3. They are better in bed – with more energy, more stamina and enthusiasm, less age-related injuries, no arthritis, no pulled muscles, no osteoporosis, higher testosterone levels and general better physique they’re bound to make you scream!
  4. They make you feel young! BINGO! Feeling young is what we all yearn for. If there’s a person who can give me the elixir of youth, or even better, make me feel young, I’d jump at it (or them!) in a second. My husband is so busy and when he’s not busy he’s boring and I’m bored around him.

The benefits of having a younger man are so incredibly obvious to me – so why is it still such an issue for so many people? When Jennifer Lopez walked the red carpet at the Golden Globes with 27-year-old Ryan Guzman (a visual treat to say the least!) who is 19 years her junior, she started all kinds of rumours. Lopez and Guzman are starring opposite each other in new movie The Boy Next Door which is due to be released later this year.

Check out this clip of J Lo talking to Ellen DeGeneres about her co-star relationship. She says things like “He’s so fun, real sweet…He’s a real gentleman. There’s nothing wrong with it (dating a younger man!) I hate that they have a label for a woman who would date a younger guy (‘cougar’). If a younger guy is interested in you, what’s the big deal? What’s the word for the man who’s after younger girls?”

Bravo darling, bravo!

BWC xxx

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