You know what I’ve been missing the most during lockdown?
Impromptu after work drinks, weekend brunch, coffee dates, wining, dining and most of all gossip! We’ve tried to keep up some semblance of normality of course, with the odd video call here and there, but honestly, I’m getting bored of talking to friends about the monotonous day-to-day of London Lockdown.
& that’s when I was introduced to a totally inclusive forum by one of my friends called Lockdown Love
It’s a forum for bored wives and husbands to discuss all things naughty and nice! There’s all sorts of topics on the forum ranging from advice on how to keep positive and entertained right now, as well as thoughts on married life, affairs and sex! It’s a totally inclusive community and I’ve really been enjoying commenting on all the interesting daily subjects!
What a great idea to kill some time and talk to some interesting characters. It’s all run by the website IllicitEncounters.com (a dating site for married people!)
Let me know if you like it, maybe chat to you there? 😉
One third of Adulterers believe that cheating doesn’t count when it’s done abroad.
IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest extra-marital affairs site, surveyed 1000 of it’s members and discovered that a whopping 33% admitted that they didn’t feel having a fling abroad was cheating.
The survey found that 28% of affair-seekers were planning a trip abroad to engage in some illicit fun this summer.
The surveyed also voted on the top European cheating destinations and found Prague to be the top contender.
What is interesting is that cheaters actually believe what they’re doing doesn’t constitute as cheating as long as it’s done on holiday; perhaps the anonymity of infidelity abroad minimizes the guilt factor, thus making it feel less deceptive.
Sierra, a female member using the site, said “What happens on holiday stays on holiday! It’s a universal rule. Every year I book a girlie getaway with my close pal Donna, who’s also married by the way. Our summer breaks are always very eventful, but nothing I want to write home about! Let’s just say a cheeky fling is always on the agenda, Donna and I both know it’s only some harmless fun. Our husbands drop us off at the airport and they’re right where we left them when we get back, none-the-wiser and perfectly happy to see us after a little break from each other. It’s win-win.”
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Claire Page said “Let’s be honest here, what do you actually expect goes on – on a girls or lads holiday? Plenty of married people play away on holidays abroad; it’s just something nobody bats an eye at anymore.
Is it cheating? Apparently some think not, I can totally understand the thought process behind this though. The reason some people harbour any ill feelings towards their infidelity is due to the baggage that may follow them around, but if you can drop the baggage off on the conveyor belt at the airport – then the weight is quite literally off your shoulders.
If the problem doesn’t follow you home, then there’s no problem at all. So can cheating abroad not count? Yes, if you don’t let it.”
Britons have spoken, Toni Duggan voted the sexiest female footballer from the 2015 England FIFA squad.
IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s largest married dating site polled 600 of its male members and found Toni Duggan to be the sexiest England footballer in the World Cup with 17% of the vote, followed by Alex Greenwood (14%) and Katie Chapman (10%).
The England Lionesses suffered a tragic defeat against Japan last night, but amidst the devastation the women can take consolation in the knowledge that they’re still getting their male fans hot under the collar. Although more bad news for Laura Bassett who ended the semi-finals by kicking the ball into their own goal, she only came in at 1% in the poll.
Winger Toni Duggan topping the poll comes as no surprise – she’s an obvious winner. Duggan is a stunning blonde bombshell with a figure to die for. It seems that blondes are favourite, with Alex Greenwood and Katie Chapman both donning blonde hair.
Ricky a member on the site said “Women playing sports is just so hot, it puts them in league with men and I think we respect them all the more for it. Someone faster, better and stronger than you – who still looks feminine and sexy, er, what more could you want? Put any man in a room with Toni Duggan and dare them not to flirt – very few could stop themselves. I’d learn to do a 1,000 kick up’s in a row to bag a date with a footballer, no other body can measure that kind of fitness.”
Claire Page spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com said “It’s official: the lionesses are making British men roar! Forget the World Cup loss, we’re still team GB! The ladies have done us proud getting to the semi-finals and now we will celebrate them in style.
Can you be surprised our men find these incredible women attractive? It’s standard practice that footballers train hard to remain strong and lean, and the girls are fit on and off the pitch! Naturally this means they will have outstanding figures, and it seems that our British men think so too!
Toni Duggan deserves to come in first place, she is glamorous and sporty – this is a mix that doesn’t come around often, and boy is it attractive.” Top 5 Sexiest Female Footballers
A new survey by IllicitEncounters.com the UK’s largest extra-marital dating website has placed Premier Inn as the hotel most often used by adulterers.
The study surveyed 2000 of its members and found that an overwhelming 40% of affair seekers choose to book with Premier Inn for their rendezvous.
Second most voted for hotel chain was Travelodge (22%), and in third place Holiday Inn (11%).
The Premier Inn that was most visited by adulterers was selected as Premier Inn London Kensington Olympia Hotel.
Premier Inn is the UK’s biggest Hotel brand, totaling 690 hotels in Britain. It seems that quantity may trump quality over hotel bookings, with more deluxe hotels getting fewer overall votes.
The top reasons given for hotel choice were-
2. Day room or early check-in option
Geoffrey a male member using the site who chose Premier Inn said “They’re readily available and affordable. You can also pay cash at the front desk on arrival, meaning I’ve not got to worry about a hotel springing up on my billing history.”
Louise a female member using the site said “I chose Premier Inn because it has a convenient location, close enough not to arouse suspicion but far enough to feel discrete! The facilities are great too, nice restaurant bar and great service. If you call ahead you can get early check in too, which lets you arrive unnoticed.”
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Claire Page said “The top cheating hotels are all within the budget bracket – of course affair-seekers don’t want to splash out for a hotel that they may only use for a couple of hours in the day. Premier Inn’s motto ‘Everything’s Premier, but the price!’ echoes the thoughts of adulterers who chose affordability as the top reason for booking. Being the biggest hotel chain in the UK helps, Premier Inn’s are everywhere and easy to reach making them a very obvious choice for an illicit encounter.”
Intelligent people are most likely to have affairs, especially women, according to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married dating site.
The website looked at the educational qualifications of its nearly 1 million members in the UK. The findings show that 72% of female members have higher education qualifications of Bachelor’s Degrees or above whereas male members fared slightly lower with 65%.
Education, however, was not a standalone factor when analyzing a person’s intelligence. The website also cross examined the profiles of 500 currently active members of IllicitEncounters.com and found that 61% spoke more than one language, 48% described themselves as ‘creative’ and 34% ran their own business.
The majority of members on the site are in senior professions and earning high salaries (either in the higher rate or additional rate tax band), it is clear that intelligence impacts success.
“Appearing to have a successful life immediately makes you more desirable.” Claire Page, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com said, “It is unsurprising that successful people are faced with temptation when others are instantly attracted to them. Successful people tend to be high earners who have the financial means to indulge in an additional discrete relationship. They are also natural problem solvers and better negotiators who are more likely to take calculated risks – if they see a problem in their marriage but for whatever reason they cannot or do not want to leave, the obvious solution is to have an affair!”
The rise in women choosing to cheat on their spouses could be due to women choosing to focus on their careers and have children later in life, with the average age of women having kids currently at 30 years old. With better financial stability and less commitment, wives choosing to have an affair are on the increase.
The National Opinion Research Centre’s General Social Survey of American Society 2013 confirmed there has been an increase in women having affairs by 40%, while men having affairs remained consistent at 21%. IllicitEncounters.com has also seen an increase of 18% of female members joining the site in the last 12 months alone. With better financial stability, better education and less commitments, attached women choosing to take on another lover are on the rise.
Think you can tell if your partner is cheating? Now you don’t have to as a new interactive app can do this for you. AreTheyACheat.com employs expert knowledge from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest married dating website, to establish whether your relationship is at risk of infidelity.
The app scores your answers based on a cheating partners actions in situations within a cohabiting relationship – 10 points if they have had a sudden ‘increase in overtime’, 10 points if they’ve recently ‘become obsessed with their appearance’ etc – the higher the score the increased possibility they are having their cake and eating it. With twelve likely scenarios, this method will establish whether someone’s partner is being unfaithful, whether there is a high risk of infidelity or whether someone is being overly paranoid.
AreTheyACheat.com fulfils its purpose – the app functions to reveal whether or not a person is being cheated on – the cheat-o-meter is designed to know what to look out for, as well as inadvertently showing what not to do for those who are considering taking on a mistress or histress without getting caught out.
With close to 1 million members using IllicitEncounters.com – accounting for approximately 7% of the UK married population; it is clear people seeking affairs is on the rise. To put it bluntly, technology is making it easier to have an affair and get away with it. Year on year there is an increase in registrations, suggesting people are moving away from the conventions of a traditional offline affair and utilising the technology available to them to keep their adultery under wraps instead.
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Claire Page said “It is becoming pretty evident that the UK is obsessed with affairs! We love to hear about them, talk about them, and now we enjoy taking part in them – it’s a natural progression. Of course the whole point of an affair is for it to remain discrete. AreTheyACheat.com isn’t just for people who want to find out if their partner is cheating, but also for the adulterer who wants to check they are not making any school boy errors.
There are so many ways in which you can utilize modern technology to cover your tracks and save a marriage these days – those who make the rookie mistakes outlined in the app need to reconsider their approach to infidelity because it is clearly not working in their benefit.”
New research by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s top married dating site, shows that horse-riding is the top fantasy first date. 300 women on the site were asked what their ideal first date was and the most popular choice was ‘horse riding’ with 37% of the votes, beating ‘cinema’, ‘sailing’, ‘candle lit dinner’ and ‘drinks in a pub’.
“When women think about their ideal first date they associate passion and exciting things with romantic success,” psychologist Lucy Redford said, “Although something very over-the-top like a flight to Paris is intimidating and too extravagant, something active like horse-riding takes your mind off the pressure of a first date, it’s fun and shows you’ve put thought into the date because it requires more effort than a few pints in the local. Horses are also associated with wealth, which in itself is attractive, and require a lot of attention and care – and most women look for an attentive, caring man.”
There has been a sharp rise in estate agents bringing their mistresses to show houses, both for fantasy house shopping and bedroom rendezvous, according to married dating website, IllicitEncounters.com. One in twenty five (3.8%) people on the adulterous site claim to have had, or currently be in, affairs with estate agents. These people were asked why estate agents are great mistress/ histress material and the top three reasons were:
1)They’re great liars.
2)They’re financially stable.
3)They’re professional and understand the boundaries of an affair.
This fantasy house shopping is well-received by their partners because it “brings a sense of escapism” according to 89 mistresses in London. The most popular show house affair locations were Richmond, Chelsea, South Kensington and Canary Wharf.
“One customer told us she had been taken to a house on Billionaire’s row in Hampstead, North London, which was on the market for £65 million!” Claire Page, spokesperson for Illicit Encounters said, “The growing trend isn’t difficult to understand – show houses are cheaper and more comfortable than a hotel, although if I thought a high-earning estate agent was bringing me to a show house to save on money, I wouldn’t be impressed, but then again, unlike a hotel bill, it’s more discrete as it doesn’t leave a money trail, so it’s a safer option.”
“Thatcherism began the fantasy house shopping craze.” Psychologist Lucy Redford said, “When the Prime Minister declared her belief in a ‘property owning democracy’, it made the common family believe that through hard work and practical thrift, they could own their own house. For the first time in history, the idea of substantial assets being available to everyone was incredibly attractive – it brought financial security and a great deal of freedom. It’s the same factors that make property buying today so attractive. Fantasy house shopping and property porn are bigger than ever and so the rise of estate agents and property developers bringing their mistresses to lavish houses isn’t difficult to understand.”
Market leader in married online dating site Illicit Encounters has released data which comprises a similarity between personality traits and drink of choice. Screening 3,000 of its members, Illicit Encounters found that we judge people on what drink they order and some liquors harbor negative affiliations. 74% of the 3,000 surveyed members said they could tell more about a person by what they drink than two minutes of small chat.
The study indicates that posher drinks suggest a higher caliber of class. We think James Bond was on the right track with his choice of spirit, and so do 72% of members who matched the word Suave to the classic Martini; let’s face it, every woman on the planet who hears Daniel Craig say ‘Shaken not stirred’ finds him completely irresistible. The cheaper less sophisticated drinks such as lager are associated with beer guzzling loudmouths with 89% relating the word Boisterous to Beer. We may enjoy our poison of choice – but what does it actually say about our taste, or lack-there-of?
Spokesperson for Illicit Encounters Claire Page said “There has always been a social stigma to certain alcoholic drinks. If you think of the typical soccer fan watching a home game at the local stadium, you’d assume he’s got a pint of Fosters in his hand; on the flipside if you consider the drink of choice for a lawyer and his circle of socialites, it’s more likely a bottle of Dom Perignon. It’s a good idea to learn what drink stereotypes are associated with personality traits so you know what to order for a prospective partner, and you don’t offend a classy woman by buying her a pint of Budweiser on your first date!”
Let’s have some fun here!
Women on Men: Cheap and tasteless. Doesn’t have sex at home and his kids are disappointments- he drowns himself in copious amounts of beer way past closing time.
Men on Women: Laddish and boisterous, a wears the trousers-kind-of-girl. Often thought of as one of the lads.
Women on Men: Awkward loner. He is a fan of emasculating sex, involving bondage as well as voyeurism. Refers to his musical tastes as eclectic. Remains reserved until an opportunity arises for him to talk about art house Swedish movies.
Men on Women: Pretentious and uninviting. Keeps her man on a tight leash making all executive decisions including when, how, and for how long they have sex. Has an obsessive compulsive tendency.
Women on Men: Cocksure and presumptuous. Will settle down when hell freezes over. Has an inflated ego and drones on about his many sexual pursuits. Conversations with him are dominated by innuendos.
Men on Women: Intelligent and dauntless with an air of grace. Has exceptionally high standards and won’t settle. Will dismiss you if you cannot keep up with an intellectual conversation.
Women on men: Charming, cheeky and old fashioned. Has an awful lot of pride but needs validation of his masculinity.
Men on Women: Attention seeking and forward. Bit of an exhibitionist. She enjoys an audience, particularly of the opposite sex.
Women on men: Tosser
Men on Women: Socialite
Women on men: He’s Gay.
Men on Women: Cheeky minx. Independent, but very high maintenance. City dweller who was career focussed in her 20s and is now single in her 30s.
Women on men: Artistic extrovert. Has an open relationship with his long-distance Estonian girlfriend. Inhabits a converted warehouse; with a bunch of hipster friends.
Men on Women: Eccentric and loud. Has waltzed in 2 hours late, wearing killer heels and yesterdays outfit. Has her best girlfriend on speed-dial for speedy exits.
Rum & Coke
Women on men: Notorious philanderer. Has a bank balance to match his ego. Likes to flash his cash and spoil the women in his life.
Men on Women: Interesting and outspoken. She is very composed opinionated.
Gin and Tonic
Women on men: Educated and endearing. He possesses a calm and tolerant manner. Has a healthy and happy home and an agreeable wife.
Men on Women: Straight talking and self assured. Knows what she wants and how to get it.
Women on men: Suave. Has an extremely likable personality. Arrives with his stunning girlfriend and spends the night introducing her to important business associates while telling fascinating stories.
Men on Women: Untamed and decisive. Likes to leave her options open and if somebody decent comes along she will make her intentions clear.
I’m quite irked about the new obsession with Jennifer Lopez, or in fact any woman, dating men younger than them. Over the past ten years, there has been a tremendous shift in societal perception in dating. What was once thought of as unusual (à la Demi/Ashton) has now become common place (Hallelujah!) as more and more women are going for younger men – Julianne Moore, Mariah Carey, Tina Turner, Robin Wright, Joan Collins, Geena Davis, Cher, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, Halle Berry, Cameron Diaz and Jennifer Aniston – so it shouldn’t be such a shocker in 2015 when women in the spotlight go for a younger, better model. If you had the chance, would you?
Men date younger women. All. The. Fricking. Time. So why is it such an issue in reverse? There are so many benefits to dating a younger man, like:
It’s all about me, me, me – he’ll admire your success and achievements. Being awed and adored is fab-u-lous!
They make the effort – younger men love to impress. They’ll step it up for you and become the best version of themselves, unlike a lot of older men who don’t bother.
They are better in bed – with more energy, more stamina and enthusiasm, less age-related injuries, no arthritis, no pulled muscles, no osteoporosis, higher testosterone levels and general better physique they’re bound to make you scream!
They make you feel young! BINGO! Feeling young is what we all yearn for. If there’s a person who can give me the elixir of youth, or even better, make me feel young, I’d jump at it (or them!) in a second. My husband is so busy and when he’s not busy he’s boring and I’m bored around him.
The benefits of having a younger man are so incredibly obvious to me – so why is it still such an issue for so many people? When Jennifer Lopez walked the red carpet at the Golden Globes with 27-year-old Ryan Guzman (a visual treat to say the least!) who is 19 years her junior, she started all kinds of rumours. Lopez and Guzman are starring opposite each other in new movie The Boy Next Door which is due to be released later this year.
Check out this clip of J Lo talking to Ellen DeGeneres about her co-star relationship. She says things like “He’s so fun, real sweet…He’s a real gentleman. There’s nothing wrong with it (dating a younger man!) I hate that they have a label for a woman who would date a younger guy (‘cougar’). If a younger guy is interested in you, what’s the big deal? What’s the word for the man who’s after younger girls?”