Why is the idea of sex with a stranger is so exciting?


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I often find myself wondering if I could sleep with someone I see on the street, without the “getting to know each other” phase. There is so much excitement in the extreme naughtiness of having sex with someone you just met, besides the fact that I am married!

There would be no formalities, no strings attached, you are simply there to feel intense pleasure and to physically satisfy one another.


According to Psychology Today, only 4% of women in a relationship would actually sleep with a complete stranger. Of course this is a just fantasy, most of us would need some sort of connection and spark before going to bed with someone, but dreaming is free!

Do you ever fantasise about men you see on the street?

The perfect woman according to men


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I have always thought that men dream of the tall, slim blonde model type, with huge breasts and a perfect behind.

Well, according to IllicitEncouters.com, (a website for married people who want to have an affair!), men’s ideal lover is brunette, with light eyes, not too tall, slim or slightly curvy (as long as she is healthy), toned, good-looking but still “real”.

But apparently, the thing that men find the sexiest, is confidence. The perfect woman is also funny and goes to the gym and theatre.

Men on the website apparently also like to spoil their lover as they prefer someone who can be independent but will allow the men to be chivalrous and pay.

Well, my ideal man looks a bit like this:


What’s your like?

Confidence Comes with Age

Grandmother portrait set in the studio. Concepts about seniorityLast week my dear friend told me that she is so happy to be in her late 40s because she has actually never felt more confident.

This affirmation made me realise how I accept myself much more compared to when I was in my 20s, when I hated my appearance and was obsessed with my scale. I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror at times, and now I just think less about my looks, and appreciate a bit more the flaws that make me, me.

It feels like the older we get, the more appreciative of ourselves we become…and actually, body confidence reaches its highest in our late 60s, according to his article from the Independent!

Leave a comment to tell us if you feel more confident than when you were younger.

You’ve Thought About Your Gardener And You Know It.


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It’s ok, I’ve done it too. And we’re not alone, as 77% of married women have admitted to flirting with their gardeners, so says IllicitEncounters.com.

A spokesman for the site explains:

“Women know what they want, and there’s evidently a common theme here. Your stereotypical image of a gardener is a hot, topless and well-built man, and the same could be said of firemen, fitness instructors and the other popular responses.

Times have changed, and with the married women on our site mainly stuck in sexless marriages, they don’t want to sit and wait for someone to court them – they’re dominant, and they’ll seek the initiative to turn their seduction fantasy into a reality.”

Spare a thought for postmen, however, who appear in the sexual fantasies of only 20% of women.

Here’s Why Golf Should Scare You Shitless


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I’ve learnt something today: there are tons of golf-related innuendos. Rough, bush, bunker, hole, shaft – it’s a writers dream.

I came across this effectively useless tidbit of knowledge upon reading that the act of playing golf has been named the most popular excuse that an adulterer tells his wife.

The totally scientific study says that 34% of adulterers use golf as their excuse as it allows them to sneak out of the house for several hours at a time, which makes sense, I suppose.

The second most popular excuse was “working late” followed by “going to the gym,” “going to the pub, and “shopping for groceries” (lol).

I blame Tiger Woods.


There’s Too Much Pressure On Young People


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This isn’t the first time you’ll have seen someone make this statement. In fact, it’s far from an original thought, but that doesn’t make it any less true.

With a 24 hour news cycle and the ability to connect to anyone, anywhere, anytime, it’s easy to think that things are worse than they’ve ever been – in every aspect of life – but things are, generally speaking, pretty good.

We’re healthier than we’ve ever been, we’re living longer, we’re smarter – it goes on.

Life’s good, guys, trust me.

However, the downside of this non-stop connectivity is that we’re too focused on keeping up with the Jones’, and it’s even worse for young people.

In this instance, they’re marrying far too prematurely. Recent research has suggested that it’s down to celebrity culture and a seemingly fruitless endeavour to live the perfect life – to have the perfect marriage.

So, young people marry young, have kids, then realise that they can’t afford to divorce a couple of years down the line when it all starts to unravel.

It’s supposedly led to an increase in the amount of young people looking for affairs as a viable alternative to divorce, which is understandable.

The bigger problem? I can’t see it changing anytime soon.

And another one.


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António Horta-Osório. Nope, never heard of him either. But he’s a very important man. Why? Well, he’s the chief executive of Lloyds Bank, namely.

He’s also been making some dubious visits to Singapore, so claim The Sun. Following Vernon Kay, Ozzy Osborne and others, Horata-Osório joins the long, long list of high-profile adulterers this year alone, if The Sun’s claims are to be believed that is (they’ve never lied before, have they?).

It does raises a pertinent and salient question; are affairs simply a part of every day life?

Whether you’re young, old, rich, poor, attractive, ugly, male, female, there’s a very good chance that you know someone, even if not very well, who has cheated or been cheated on themselves.

It begs the question: is monogamy simply a social construct? Will affairs become acceptable in a few decades from now? Should we be surprised at the alarming (or not as the case may be) of failed marriages?

Answers on a postcard, please.

“The excitement of knowing that men actually found me attractive and alluring, was addictive.”


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Meet Chloe, 40-something, from England. I stumbled upon Chloe’s story in the Mirror. A middle-aged woman in a sexless, loveless marriage, she could so very easily be a Bored Wife herself.

While I’m never one to take solace out of other people’s misery, it’s heartening to know that you’re not alone.

And then, in the same article, there was Jenny, followed swiftly by Claire.

They elucidate on their sexless marriages and their conquest to find a man outside of their marriage. Whether it’s arthritis, menopause, depression or something totally different altogether, what stood out is the alarming amount of men who seemingly want to make love to their wives, yet can’t.

Whether that’s a willing refusal from the women in question, or their hand is forced, we’re losing our libido.