We tend to think that while men cheat for sex, women do it for an emotional need. But as with time women become more independent, is this still the case?
This article by Psychology Today explains that not only women want romanticism, but that emotional connection is a major factor in female sexual arousal. Basically, we need to be both physically and emotionally turned on.
According to Illicitencounters.com, a website for married people who want to cheat, rather than an emotional connection, women want attention because the spark in their marriage has gone…
I have always thought that men dream of the tall, slim blonde model type, with huge breasts and a perfect behind.
Well, according to IllicitEncouters.com, (a website for married people who want to have an affair!), men’s ideal lover is brunette, with light eyes, not too tall, slim or slightly curvy (as long as she is healthy), toned, good-looking but still “real”.
But apparently, the thing that men find the sexiest, is confidence. The perfect woman is also funny and goes to the gym and theatre.
Men on the website apparently also like to spoil their lover as they prefer someone who can be independent but will allow the men to be chivalrous and pay.
Last week my dear friend told me that she is so happy to be in her late 40s because she has actually never felt more confident.
This affirmation made me realise how I accept myself much more compared to when I was in my 20s, when I hated my appearance and was obsessed with my scale. I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror at times, and now I just think less about my looks, and appreciate a bit more the flaws that make me, me.
It feels like the older we get, the more appreciative of ourselves we become…and actually, body confidence reaches its highest in our late 60s, according to his article from the Independent!
Leave a comment to tell us if you feel more confident than when you were younger.
It’s ok, I’ve done it too. And we’re not alone, as 77% of married women have admitted to flirting with their gardeners, so says IllicitEncounters.com.
A spokesman for the site explains:
“Women know what they want, and there’s evidently a common theme here. Your stereotypical image of a gardener is a hot, topless and well-built man, and the same could be said of firemen, fitness instructors and the other popular responses.
Times have changed, and with the married women on our site mainly stuck in sexless marriages, they don’t want to sit and wait for someone to court them – they’re dominant, and they’ll seek the initiative to turn their seduction fantasy into a reality.”
Spare a thought for postmen, however, who appear in the sexual fantasies of only 20% of women.
Ever wondered who the biggest cheat in Game of Thrones was?!
Yeah, me neither.
But, the question nobody wanted the answer to has been answered anyway! You can thank IllicitEncounters.com for that, who’ve even thrown in a handy infographic for those of you who are averse to reading.
Spoiler alert: Cersei won. No surprise there, then.
Underwear. The latest fragrances. A fitness watch. Maybe even a new phone. To the naked eye, it’s an innocent list of Christmas gifts. According to our friends over at IllicitEncounters.com, it could be a telltale sign that your partner is an adulterer.
Why? Well, isn’t in obvious? A sharp new suit, a brand new smell, a new phone (for who, exactly?), the sudden desire to get fit… he’s after someone else, or maybe he’s already found her.
The on-screen romance between Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson was pretty terrible. Their relationship off-screen however quickly made them one of the most popular and adored couples in Hollywood. That is until Stewart had an affair with director Rupert Sanders. Unsurprisingly, Pattinson killed the relationship, with fans and press alike struck down with frustration and fury.
9. Arnold Schwarzenegger and Mildred Baena
‘I think it was the stupidest thing I’ve done in the whole relationship. It was terrible. I inflicted tremendous pain on Maria and unbelievable pain on the kids.’ That apology couldn’t save big Arnold, who cheated on wife Maria Shriver with maid, Mildred Baena. I say cheated, he slept with her and raised a child. Talk about rubbing salt in the wounds.
8. Hugh Grant and Divine Brown
In a regretful spur of the moment, lovable British actor Hugh Grant made himself a little less popular. Caught in the act, in public no less, Grant walked away humiliated. But, arguably the biggest surprise was that his then partner Elizabeth Hurley supported and forgave him (their relationship ended five years later). Props for trying, Liz.
7. Jude Law and Sienna Miller and everyone else
I’m not really sure who’s at fault here, and neither is anyone else. Law seemingly started it off by having an affair with the nanny of his kids. But, and there’s a but, Miller was simultaneously having an affair with Daniel Craig. The pair apologised, split, and then rekindled their relationship just a few years later…only to then split up again. Let it go, guys. Let it go.
6. Ronnie Wood and Ekaterina Ivanova
Is the fact that Ronnie Wood had an affair the most shocking thing in the world? Probably not, no. But who he had it with? That’s a different story. The then 61 year old was in a marriage that was 23 years strong. With his youth behind him, you’d imagine that a lot of his, shall we say, sexual encounters, disappeared along with it. Apparently not, as Mr. Wood eloped with 18 year-old cocktail waitress Ekaterina Ivanova. His wife, Jo, subsequently ended the marriage. Good on you, Jo.
5. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie
Pitt has always vehemently denied that he cheated on ex-wife Jennifer Aniston, but it took him just two months after announcing his separation from the Friends star to appear in public with Angelina Jolie. It didn’t help matters when both he and Angelina admitted that they fell in love while filming Mr. and Mrs. Smith. As for Jennifer Aniston, she took a few swipes at her former partner, stating that he lacked a ‘sensitivity meter’.
4. Ashley Cole and…everyone?
Cheryl Cole – sorry, Cheryl Fernandez-Versini – ended her marriage with the former Chelsea player after “several” women opened up to the Girls Aloud star about having an affair with him. Given their high-profile status, rumours had been doing the rounds for a little while. Was Cheryl racist? Was Ashley gay? Was their whole marriage a cover up? Who knows, but their breakup only cemented their place in the headlines for several months more.
3. Tiger Woods and Jaimee Grubbs
A lion wouldn’t cheat on his wife, but a Tiger Wood. Thank you, thank you. After years of hiding a tumultuous affair, Tiger Woods was caught, and what a scene it was too. A leaked email? An unsolicited text? Woods doesn’t bother with such low-key events. A car crash, a heated argument, and an assault on his car from his wife. It didn’t take long before Woods’ story made headlines, prompting him to apologise for his infidelity, and take an indefinite hiatus from the sport.
2. Charles and Camilla
Prince Charles is, or maybe was, pretty enviable. Wealth, status, royalty and Princess Diana – one of the nations, if not the world’s, most treasured human beings – by his side. He wouldn’t screw it up, right? Right?!
*sigh* Oh Charles.
Ryan Giggs and Imogen Thomas (and Natasha Giggs)
Another footballer. Only this time, it’s much, much worse. He cheated on his wife with glamour model Imogen Thomas – that’s already pretty bad – but to go on and cheat with his brother’s wife was, and still is, the mother of all affairs. For shame, Ryan. For shame.
Yeesh. It’s not good news if you’re dating a lawyer. Our friends over at IllicitEncounters.com (who know a thing or two about affairs) are saying that the legal eagles are in fact the most likely profession to cheat on their partners. Dating a lawyer who seems a little stressed out? I’d probably keep an extra eye on them if I were you…
The movies that make you laugh, cry, smile and then probably cry some more. Here are our top six romantic movies.
6. 50 First Dates
A man stalking a girl with a severe mental disability has all the makings of a true crime story, but 50 First Dates is anything but. Boy meets girl. Girl has memory loss. Boy sacrifices everything to be with her. In possibly Adam Sandler’s last, or only, truly great film, 50 First Dates tells the story of a hopeless romantic chasing the woman he loves, despite the obvious difficulties that her situation presents. Drew Barrymore provides equal doses of romance, love and confusion, while Adam Sandler shows us his cute side. Just look at those adorable little waffle houses.
5. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
It seems that a lot of great romances are built on memory loss. This time, it’s Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet. Carrey is no stranger to a weird role. Come to think of it… The Mask, Ace Ventura, Dumb and Dumber, Carrey only plays weird roles, but this time, he’s met his match. The wonderfully brilliant and quirky Clementine Kruczynski (Winslet) falls in love with the timid and stoic Joel Barish (Carrey) in a classic case of opposites attract. Unfortunately, a turbulent relationship leads to the couple electing to erase all memory of each other by…magic?
Its fantastical and unrealistic idiosyncrasies aside, the film shows Barish’s journey through his own mind in a desperate struggle to undo his fatal error.
I struggle to think anything of less romantic than a capsizing boat and a tragic death in sub-zero temperatures, but, its ending aside, Titanic is the ultimate love story. Kate Winslet, who seemingly has a penchant for these sorts of roles, plays Leonardo Di Caprio’s opposite number. Di Caprio himself is Jack, a happy-go-lucky charmer, who, rather unfortunately as it turns out, scores himself a ticket on a one way trip. Titanic relegates and undermines class and societal hierarchy in a touching love at first sight story. Just a shame that Jack, y’know, died.
3. Brokeback Mountain
Brokeback Mountain was a seminal moment in modern cinema thanks to its portrayal of a homosexual relationship. Referred to in passing as “that gay film with the cowboys”, Brokeback Mountain explored a beautiful relationship between two curious friends. But let’s put their sexual orientation to one side for one moment.
Brokeback Mountain was, and still is, relatable. It disseminates the concept of parallel relationships, with character’s Jack and Ennis resolving a bitter inner conflict – can you love more than one person at a time?
2. The Notebook
Obvious, I know. Where oh so many others fail, The Notebook made a surprisingly smooth transition from book to film. The Notebook is bittersweet in so many ways. Duke, an elderly patient, reads to an elderly dementia sufferer.
He tells the tale of a young American couple, Noah and Allie, who find themselves caught in the middle of World War II America. The two fall hopelessly in love (aw), but the difference in their societal backgrounds proves to be too much of a stumbling block for Allie’s parents.
Without wanting to spoil too much, The Notebook is tear-inducing, but in the best way possible.
They don’t make them like they used to. Casablanca is not only an outstanding romantic movie, it’s an outstanding film full stop. Set two years into the second World War, Casablanca follows the very real dilemma of living in the Nazi-occupied and war-torn western world. Nightclub owner Rick, (who don’t stick his neck out for nobody), encounters his ex-girlfriend (Ilsa), who betrayed him years prior by running off without notice.
Riddled with anger and confusion, Rick must choose whether to assist the woman who he once loved.