How do you let someone down gently? Well, for many women, “I’m not ready for commitment yet,” seems to be our first choice.

That’s according to the UK’s leading dating website for married people, IllicitEncounters.com.

Men on the other hand preferred a slightly more blunt approach, with “it’s just not working,” “I’ve met somebody else” and “I’m not attracted to you anymore” the most popular choices.

Women are far more considerate when it comes to pulling the trigger it seems. I can’t say I’m all that surprised.

The most popular answers for ending a relationship:


  1. I am not ready for commitment yet.
  2. This is going too fast for me.
  3. We’re not a good match.
  4. We want different things.
  5. I need to concentrate on my career.
  6. I don’t like your friends or family.
  7. It’s just not working.
  8. You are not mature enough.
  9. We have not got enough in common.
  10. I don’t trust you.


  1. It’s just not working.
  2. I’ve met someone else.
  3. I’m not attracted to you anymore.
  4. We’ve lost that sexual spark.
  5. It’s not you, it’s me.
  6. I need to concentrate on my career.
  7. We want different things.
  8. I don’t want to see you anymore.
  9. I am not ready for commitment yet.
  10. We do not have enough in common.