Husband loves wife. Wife loves husband. Except, one day, they don’t anymore. Over a period of weeks, months, years, their relationship disintegrates, until one of husband and wife (or both) commit a cardinal sin: infidelity. There’s no blueprint, no magic formula, no surefire way of fixing what’s broken, but our friends over at IllicitEncounters.com are helping us figure out the why.
Sex. You could argue that there are more important factors in a relationship, and that it isn’t the cornerstone of every relationship, and sure, there’s a lot of cases in which you’d be right. But there are plenty more where you’d be wrong. According to IllicitEncounters, a bad sex life is at the heart of over a third of all divorces. Whether that means there’s a lack of experimentation, passion, or semblance of intimacy, someone can only accept so much. It’s natural, it’s instinctive, and if a relationship can’t satisfy a common urge or desire, it won’t last too long.
So you married too young. You were swept away, rushed in, and now find yourself with more of a tinge of regret some years down the line. Or, maybe after 20 or so years the spark isn’t there. “So if you don’t love your partner, why don’t you just get a divorce?” A good question. It’s certainly a viable solution, one that makes sense on many levels, and in certain cases it’s the most reasonable and common outcome to a busted marriage. But in the modern day, divorces can be really, really messy. There’s the allocation of wealth, for starters. That in and of itself can be, shall we say, difficult. You want a quick separation, but you’re instead lumbered with a long and drawn out litigious battle.
If you have kids, it only gets worse. There’s custody to sort out, all while ensuring that you, your partner and your children have the mental fortitude to go through it all. Divorce isn’t for everyone, and it’s not exactly a no-brainer.
Your sex life is poor, you can’t change you, you can’t change your partner, and divorce isn’t an option. Hello, affair, nice to meet you.